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When Prayer Isn’t “Working”: How to Handle Anxiety Without Feeling Like a Bad Christian

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You pray. You read your Bible. You believe. And yet—there it is again:
that tight feeling in your chest, the racing thoughts at 2 a.m.,
the heavy sense that something bad is about to happen.

If that sounds familiar, this post is for you. Because I’ve been there, too.
And I want to tell you right up front: struggling with anxiety does not mean
you’re failing at faith.

“Just Pray About It” Isn’t Always Enough

Let’s be honest. Sometimes well-meaning advice like “Just give it to God” feels more frustrating
than helpful. Not because prayer isn’t powerful—it is—but because anxiety often lives
in the body as much as in the soul.

I’ve heard sermons that made me feel like if I was still anxious,
I just wasn’t trusting God hard enough. But anxiety isn’t always about a lack of trust.
Sometimes, it’s about a nervous system stuck in fight-or-flight mode.

You’re Not Broken—You’re Wired This Way

Did you know God designed your brain with an alarm system? It’s called the amygdala.
When danger shows up—real or imagined—it flips the panic switch.
This is great if you’re running from a bear. Not so great when you’re lying in bed
at night worrying about tomorrow’s work meeting.

The problem isn’t that you have this response. The problem is when your body keeps hitting
the panic button even when there’s no bear.

Yes, Pray. But Also—Breathe.

Here’s what helped me (and still helps): I pray and I breathe.
Literally. One of the fastest ways to tell your body that you’re safe is
through slow, intentional breathing.

Try this right now:
Inhale for 4 counts. Hold for 4 counts. Exhale for 6 counts.
Do that three times. Notice how your shoulders feel.

I like to match my breathing with Scripture. One favorite:
Be still and know that I am God (Psalm 46:10).
I whisper one part of the verse on each exhale. It slows my body down and anchors my mind.

God Works Through Tools (Including Therapy)

Therapy is not a faith failure. Medicine is not a Plan B.
Jesus used mud and spit to heal a blind man (John 9:6).
Paul told Timothy to drink a little wine for his stomach issues (1 Timothy 5:23).
God often works through physical means to bring healing.

Sometimes prayer gives peace in the moment. Sometimes God gives us tools—like counseling,
breathing exercises, or medication—for the longer journey.

Five Things That Helped Me (And Might Help You)

  1. Breath prayers (slow inhale, exhale on a verse like “Peace, be still”)
  2. Talking openly with a Christian counselor
  3. Getting outside for 10 minutes of sunlight daily
  4. Journaling anxious thoughts and then praying through them
  5. Remembering that Jesus knows what panic feels like (Gethsemane, anyone?)

Final Thought

If you’re waiting for me to wrap this up with “Just have more faith,” you won’t find it here.
Faith isn’t pretending you’re okay when you’re not.
It’s trusting God enough to say, Lord, I need help—and then taking the next right step,
whether that’s prayer, counseling, or even a deep breath.

And if no one’s told you this lately:
You’re not alone. You’re not broken. And yes—God still loves you.